I was talking to a client the other day about how to create boundaries in her life.
She felt as if she was always too nice and therefore being taken advantage of in her daily life and relationships. She felt as though she lost her way.
I used to be the exact same way. I would say yes to everything, felt bad saying no, would go out of my way at my own expense for everyone. I didn’t feel feminine, I didn’t feel confident, I was not honoring my own feelings.
Once I created my personal boundaries, I immediately felt more free and fierce in my feminine power because I was taking the steps to honor myself fully.
Setting my own personal boundaries, helped me see what was important to me in relationship. The second that clicked for me, I instantly started attracting better more loving and successful men.
See, boundaries are so important to honor ourselves and our divine feminine that we all embody as women.
The connection to the divine feminine for us women is, how we are able to think with our hearts not just our heads.
It holds our creativity, our wisdom, our connection and our intuition.
It is how we can live deeply in compassion, nurturing and love.
When we don’t honor ourselves and create our boundaries we lose connection to that part of us.
We need them to allow ourselves to step into that beauty of honor to feel completely safe with being authentic.
If you are unable to set good boundaries then your self esteem suffers.
If your self esteem suffers then your love life suffers because you then attract the lower quality men.
So today, let’s honor the beautiful women that we are and connect back to our divine feminine by honoring ourselves to create boundaries that work for us.
Here are 5 ways to start setting boundaries now.
1.Values
Values are super important. In every first session with any client we always go deep and pull out what their values are.
What are your values? What is important to you, and what do you stand for? Think about it, meditate on it, journal it, and feel it deep within your core.
Stand for your values and don’t accept anything less. This is the first, and most important way to set a boundary!
2. Check-In
Your body is a very intelligent vessel that can tap into things you can feel and can’t see.
It will tell you by butterflies, uneasiness, tightness, calmness, relaxation, sexual arousal etc.
I do Check-in’s all the time.
I check-in with my body to see how it feels when decisions or events arise. I even check-in when meeting new people or men.
Ask yourself “how do you feel about X?”.
Take a second to breathe in the question or situation- Does it excite or drain you? Go with that, your body knows more than you think!
3. Sacred No
I used to be terrible at this. I call it standing in your sacred no. The sacred no is when you are fully in your no because your heart isn’t in it. When you say that no- it doesn’t feel icky, it feels good, empowering even.
Honoring yourself is all about saying no when your heart isn’t in it.
The majority of us are not great at setting this boundary in life and love especially. We tend to feel bad about saying no and doing it out of obligation.
So, stand in your sacred NO girl, it’s okay, you are safe to honor yourself I promise.
4.Permission
This one can be tough, but once your commit to it, it can ignite that feminine power inside you.
Give yourself full permission to show up however way is most authentic way to you. In your daily life and dating, let go of the need to be something more or less than what you are.
JUST be you. If anyone doesn’t like it, well then they aren’t meant to be in your life.
When you show up in your most authentic self, not only do you attract better but you feel better, more in your divine feminine power and more in your full confidence.
Be you, no one else- I’ve got your back!
5.Self Care
For some reason we never make enough time for this, but it’s up there with importance next to values.
A very important boundary to set is self-care.
Allow yourself to put YOU first.
An event is coming up, is your body telling you that you are tired but you rally on through anyway because you feel obligated? Well, your body likely needs to rest and you may need to sit that one out.
Are you surrounded by negative energy or a bad date and want to leave but feel bad? Well, you need to put yourself first. Honor yourself.
Self care is recognizing how you feel about anything and honoring that.
YOU got this!
Boundaries used to be so hard for me to set since I was always a people please but I promise you that once you apply these to your own life, you will instantly feel your feminine power come alive.
Once your feminine power comes alive you will instantly start attracting in higher quality men!
Happy Boundary setting!
In what way do you feel that you need to start setting boundaries or are disconnected to your own femininity?
I’d love to get a conversation going, so drop your comments below, I can’t wait to hear from all of you beautiful ladies!
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