Ponderings + What Do You Stand For?

I was wondering, have you ever thought about what makes you YOU?

I don’t mean like, your family, your education, your job or your looks, I mean deep down.

 What do YOU stand for? What is your authenticity?

This is something I find myself pondering quite frequently- I like to kind of dig in deep and reflect a lot.

We as people are ever-changing and ever evolving– which is why often times our relationships are the same way.

See, we attract who we are. 

In relationships we are a direct reflection of our partner.

That is why depending upon our mindset and the way we feel about ourselves directly effects our long term, or budding partnerships.

Let me explain. 

Have you ever been on a date that turned out to be such a wash?

The guy was just talking about money the whole time or about how amazing his job is. Your left feeling bummed out because he seemed so cool- well in that situation, that attraction into you would be the direct reflection of how you feel about money or your job.

I never had a great relationship with money until the last 4 years, I was always struggling on some level after college and I would attract these men in that were super secure with it to the point of arrogance. 

I would get down on myself and wonder why was i constantly attracting that. 

What I realized was that it was because of my own relationship with money, I was allowing it to define me.

Or, have you ever consistently found yourself attracting the same types of men? The ones who are exactly like your exes? They start the same, end the same, maybe they all cheat or something of that nature? 

That would show you that you are defining your worth and yourself based on your past relationships and thus attracting the same quality of men beginning a pattern. 

Once we are able to sit down and work through what we feel defines us, we can throw out what we don’t want and choose to commit to a better definition of ourselves therefore attracting a higher quality partner, a better reflection.

I want to help you with this so I have broken down 5 simple ways to define yourself better to figure out your definition of the beautiful you that you are. That way, you can take the first step to attracting a better partner.